Visions & Views from a Visiting Voyeur

Why am I up so late? Well I actually just got off of work. I have actually spent the night talking to different people with lots of questions, comments and frustrations. I love that my job allows me to go to school but sometimes the frustration meter goes up really high with those lovely people who talk to me night after night.

I was thinking about people today. Why do we have so many unspoken rules? And why if a person doesn’t know the rules are folks so quick to push them out? In the Sociology realm we call these norms or mores. And we call the one making the rules the in group and those not following the rules the out group. As my name implies, I tend to be in the latter group. One question I always find myself asking is how do I know how to respond or know what a person is trying to convey or want if they don’t tell me verbally? Oh I understand that there are nonverbal cues. But one cue can mean several different things to different peoples and groups. So what is a gal to do?

So the question on my mind tonight is how do I know he is interested? This of course brings to mind two particular clips…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sCWvVSE0WMk&NR=1

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mWX95Pmipow&feature=related

So I guess I’m the rule… and besides the fact that it seems he came by me a few times and also asked about me twice part of me thinks that he may just be a nice guy and that’s it. Still not sure but perhaps deciding to not play might be the best option. What do you think? Ta ta for now…

Tonight, I am ending my Fall Break. I didn’t get as much done as I could have. I should have! I think part of me is mentally worn down and I just couldn’t force myself to move forward. You know what I mean? You get so busy or life happens and you get to a point where you just halt in your tracks. That is so ME right now.

Just to catch you up. I am currently going to school full-time at a nice local university. I love most of my classes and professors. It is different from the community college I was going to last semester. I am picking back up, or at least telling myself I’m picking back up, my quest for weight loss. I am such the procrastinator. Sometimes that is when I do my best work, but to be honest procrastination and weight loss do not go hand in hand folks. Chocolate cookies and weight loss don’t either but alas I am telling myself the fresh baked ones I just made will go to work for those who are chocolate-chip- yummy-goodness deprived. Let’s hope they jump on board and eat them all. Crossing my fingers!

I am also thinking about tonight about love. Why am I thinking about this? There’s this guy. Cute and tall. He seems sweet as well. And I have been going gaw gaw over him. Sad isn’t it. It’s like I’m fourteen and a new cute guy moved next door. I don’t know if any of you watch the Millionaire Matchmaker but she got me thinking. Now disclaimer goes here: I don’t agree with a few of the stuff on that show but she had some great advice about dating the other day. She said "make a list of top 5 deal breakers". I thought **hey that is a great idea**. I tend to always meet guys who are not right for me so maybe this will help me to think with my head instead of my – errr – heart.

Top 5 things that if he ain’t got em’ it’s a deal breaker!

• I want a guy who wants to woo me! (if you don’t know what wooing is see link – http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/wooing)
• I want a guy who is honest! Again see dictionary.
• I want a guy who is patient!
• I want a guy who I can’t help but smile with!
• I want a guy who can find my little “things” cute… See song http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vBErCVNP6rM&ob=av2

So Brain are you getting this? I am getting a level head on and giving the big cookies away! Tomorrow is a good day to get up and get sweaty again. Okay the bed calls… Ta ta for now!